My “Ring by Spring” Strategy

We all have that friend who is soon to be married and oh look now they’re having a baby, and there’s three more! While you’re sitting there like, “What the?! I swear we were just fighting over baby dolls last week, how’d you get a real one so fast?”

We’ve seen it, experienced it, maybe we’ve even been in one of these “you’re too young to get married” weddings. With so many social media apps and websites it’s become easy to keep up with all the people you know starting young families. As commonly said among young adults today (in a  very whiney unattractive tone), “All my friends are getting married and having babies!” which is an overstated thought, and frankly I’m tired of hearing it. Not because of the weddings, but because of the heart behind the sentence.

Although you may see these beautiful celebrations of marriage, relationships and babies… there is blessing in the waiting. Remembering that God moves slowly, and I do mean slow, like a sloth slow this does not mean He has forgotten you. By no means at all! Don’t give the enemy the satisfaction of feeling sorry for yourself because you don’t have what other people have.

Ever heard the phrase, “the grass is always greener on the other side”?

Dare to imagine you can do more things with your life.

You have no spouse, no kids, no full time job, or any kind of responsibility requiring all of your attention (all good and important ones I desire to have one day as well). You can literally do anything! Love it, enjoy it, praise God for it! Because eventually, you could be posting “engaged” on all of your media. Just learn to love where God has placed you and don’t let your heart ache so much for not being where someone else is.

I’d be lying if I said being single everyday was easy. It’s not, I have my days where it really can be hard and I want to just feel sorry for myself. The truth is, I may never get married but if I trust in my Savior it doesn’t matter if I get married or not because He knows what’s best for my life.

I invite you to fully embrace and love where the Lord has placed you. Although the enemy would have you thinking otherwise, seasons change. Rejoice at this different life you get to live, it’s unique. Even if it doesn’t feel like it at times, God sees the big picture and knows what his masterpiece will look like when it’s complete.

If we’re being brutally honest, this life was meant to live for others not you. When you’re tempted to feel sorry for yourself, I’d like to challenge you to find someone to love on. Opportunities to serve are endless, people will always have needs. As Christians we’re meant to be a light to others, not a cloud to the lost because we’re stuck in our own muck of feeling sad for ourselves by complaining, “all my friends are getting married, and I’m still SO single”

Stand up and put on your armor of God, people are going through tragedies and God picked you to love them. Are you going to follow through?

“So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God for he cares about you”

1 Peter 5:6-7


  1. Marina, I love this. Every word. So well written, so relevant. And I think it applies to older people too who are already married and just stuck in the muck of the ordinary. We need to be a light always in each stage of life. Marina, you are. Blessing to so many!! 💜

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  2. Well said, Marina. I’ve always told single people the things you highlighted. In every phase of life, it’s tempting to wish for more. Yes, “the grass does look greener on the other side.” However, the maintenance can be draining! As singles enjoy the place they are and “bloom where they are planted,” God will build character in them so they attract the right person!


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