Getting “Comfy” with Romance

A fair amount of time has passed since my last relationship. I’m not embarrassed; this is just a matter of a fact for me.

Although it can make me feel out of practice with having a romantic connection with a guy, or being comfortable with vulnerability between me and someone else. It can almost feel like that is a completely separate life than what I know because it has been quiet some time since I’ve last been in that place.

Yet, this is what God dropped on me a few weeks ago. If I’m in a serious relationship with Christ should I be “out of practice” when it comes to being in a romantic relationship?

If dating is supposed to lead to marriage and marriage  is a representation of Christ’s love, then isn’t a serious relationship supposed to reflect how we are to treat, pursue, and love one another?

 The next time someone comes along, should I be so out of practice that I don’t know how to relate, be vulnerable, purposeful, honest and kind in the pursuance of someone? Is it okay if I’ve forgotten how being pursued is supposed to feel?

The answer is no.

I should be really good at being in a romantic relationship.

If I was so aware of how Christ pursued me, then I would know how I should be pursued.

I should be so aware of how well I am loved by Christ that I don’t shy away at the risk love takes. Christ risked it all for me, and I’m not saying to jump head over heels for anybody or even everybody because, yes, there is such a thing as guarding your heart. That’s not just a cliché Christian phrase we slap onto every heart throbbing problem we have.

All I know is that God was giving me some insight the other day and He said I should not be out of practice when it comes to being in a serious relationship because I should always be in pursuance of my relationship with Christ and aware of His pursuance towards me.

“Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love”

1 John 4:7-8

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